Amazing Moms Coffee Table Book
I submitted an application to be part of the 1st Amazing Moms Coffee Table book by Hogan Hilling and Elise Cohen Ho. Both are authors, parents and run the United We Parent website to help “…unify, strengthen and inform the parenting community.”
A couple of weeks later, I got the great news that I had been selected as one of the participants. After several edits and photo submissions, I finally received some news that the book was starting to take shape. To my surprise, I received another email saying that I would be one of the mothers to be featured on the cover.
On April 27th, Hogan Hilling tweeted about my participation in the book:
Amazing Moms 1st coffee table book to feature moms debuts in August. Chandra Meyer, Italy is mom #17 of 115. Motherhood is Alive and Well! pic.twitter.com/LxfLZtWvp2
— Hogan Hilling (@TheDadGuru) 27 aprile 2017
Finally, in August, the final copy was ready. Hogan, Elise and Motivational Press were kind enough to have sent me a copy of my page as well.
I was very happy to have participated in this project and proud to be considered an “amazing mom.” When I received the news that the book was finally published, I was visiting my parents in Vancouver, Canada with my baby boy. I was visiting at a time when my parents were occupied with work and my husband had to go back to Italy for the grape harvest. Basically, this left me in a situation where I couldn’t really count on anyone to take care of baby S whenever I needed a break. Although it was stressful at times as any mother of an energetic and curious 16 month-old would know, it also gave me a chance to just be a mother.
Am I Really An Amazing Mom?
I knew that when our vacation was over and we were back in Italy, I would be back in the office working in the dance school teaching, taking classes, bringing baby S to daycare so I could catch up with groceries, laundry, ironing, cleaning etc. My husband and I were going to be taking on new projects together which meant taking a course in Milan and holding regular meetings. To top it off, I accepted a piano teaching job. I thought of how our lifestyle would change in two weeks and realized how much I had to treasure each moment with him without having to worry about work, dance classes, choreography, piano lessons, courses, projects, and housework.
Now that we are back home in Italy, I miss those days when it was just baby S and I. With our crazy schedule, it just seemed absurd that the only free time I had to spend with my baby would rather be spent on my computer trying to prepare a blog post for the next week.
So I stopped writing. I stopped promoting, stopped participating in Facebook groups, blog hops, stopped posting regularly on social media, stopped my newsletters and instead, chose to be an “amazing mom” like the book suggested.
Unicorn Mommy Blogger
I’m trying to be that unicorn mommy blogger that works a full-time job, runs a money-making blog, feeds her kids home-made, organic and Instagram-worthy dishes in her Instagram-worthy spotless, white kitchen that is decorated for fall with hand-made decorations. (deep breath) But there are 24 hours in a day of which 8 are spent working, 2 are spent driving, 6 are spent sleeping, 2 are spent doing chores and running errands and 3 are spent cooking and eating. With the three hours I have left, I need to choreograph, find music, work on projects, prepare lessons for dance and piano, give baths, feed baby S, play with baby S, read baby S a story, clean up after him and cuddle him.
So, I can’t be the unicorn mommy blogger. Why? Because I want to be an amazing mom in real life and not on social media. I’m not going to shut down my blog, but I am slowing down and putting amazing mom priorities first.